This is insulting and bull shit. Maybe I’m only speaking for myself, but you know why I like musicians? And this is coming from a girl who has only ever dated musicians. I like them because I am a fucking musician myself. I love music. I love it passionately, and if the person I’m seeing isn’t at least interested in music, then I won’t connect with them as deeply as I could. When some one else likes music, and plays an instrument - this goes for friends as well as love interests - we can jam together, we can talk about music, why we love it. Also, when some one is interested in music, it means I can get to know them a little in advance. I can listen to the music they like, ask them why they like it, figure them out a little bit, find some common ground to tread on.  ‘Commitment’ has nothing to do with it. If it were simply about commitment, working hard at anything would do. Committing to playing an instrument is NOT THE SAME as committing to a person. Music for me has more to do with passion than commitment. Yes, you have to work at it, but it doesn’t feel like work. This post is insulting to me as a musician and as a female. It also carries the implication (also found in this delightful post) that playing an instrument means little beyond the action it can get you. Fuck that, if you play some shitty Oasis song to me so I’ll have sex with you, I’m not going to be impressed. Three chords doesn’t do it for anyone who knows a damn thing about music. Again, it’s insulting. Don’t play music to get into a girl’s pants, do it because you want to play music.  URGH.

This is insulting and bull shit. Maybe I’m only speaking for myself, but you know why I like musicians? And this is coming from a girl who has only ever dated musicians. I like them because I am a fucking musician myself. I love music. I love it passionately, and if the person I’m seeing isn’t at least interested in music, then I won’t connect with them as deeply as I could. When some one else likes music, and plays an instrument - this goes for friends as well as love interests - we can jam together, we can talk about music, why we love it. Also, when some one is interested in music, it means I can get to know them a little in advance. I can listen to the music they like, ask them why they like it, figure them out a little bit, find some common ground to tread on. 

‘Commitment’ has nothing to do with it. If it were simply about commitment, working hard at anything would do. Committing to playing an instrument is NOT THE SAME as committing to a person. Music for me has more to do with passion than commitment. Yes, you have to work at it, but it doesn’t feel like work. This post is insulting to me as a musician and as a female. It also carries the implication (also found in this delightful post) that playing an instrument means little beyond the action it can get you. Fuck that, if you play some shitty Oasis song to me so I’ll have sex with you, I’m not going to be impressed. Three chords doesn’t do it for anyone who knows a damn thing about music. Again, it’s insulting. Don’t play music to get into a girl’s pants, do it because you want to play music. 

URGH.

(via maleminded)

So sick of liberalism vs. conservativism vs. libertarianism

Ism, ism, ism. I think what has pissed me off the most about all this Ron Paul hubbub as of late is the fact that we’ve now got another ism to deal with. That’s right folks, just in case you weren’t sick enough of liberals and conservatives yelling at each other as loud as they possibly could, we’ve now got another label to slap onto our own foreheads and shout ourselves hoarse in the name of. And yes, I’m well aware that libertarianism existed long before Ron Paul came into the centre of the public eye, but you can’t deny that he’s given the ideology a lot of steam and additional popularity. Until recently, I’d never heard anyone call themselves a libertarian, and now it’s all over the fucking place! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t outright object to libertarianism. I agree with quite a number of the principles it’s based upon. I also agree with a few of Ron Paul’s stances (just the typical drugs/anti-war stuff). That’s not my point, though. 

Can’t we all just shut the fuck up, stop labeling people, and let them be what they are? I had this exact same rant about feminism months ago. Why are we all so eager to put ourselves into boxes? Why do we strive to make it easier for people to judge us? We already make hella assumptions about each other at every given opportunity, so why do we have to invite people to make assumptions like that? You can easily say “it’s not my problem what other people think about me,” but if you want them to take you seriously, then it kinda is. As soon as you give yourself an ‘ism’ you give other people a reason to shut you down and not take you seriously. You call yourself a libertarian? People are going to assume you’re a Ron Paul nut and agree with his stances on things that have nothing to do with your reasons for identifying as libertarian. I’ve found this myself, when I’ve said that I’m a feminist, or a vegetarian, or even that I identify as left wing. People who disagree with any of these things will assume the worst possible things - I’m a man hating, bra burning, PETA-style crazy lady. And a communist. I’m none of these things. And, when some one tells me they’re a conservative, my knee-jerk reaction is to think that they’re a homophobic, racist dick who doesn’t understand that taxes can be a good thing. I don’t think that all conservatives are like this by any means, I know some incredibly intelligent ones who don’t have a scrap of racism in them, but because of the very vocal conservatives who have this view point, it’s hard not to make these assumptions. I’ll scold myself for making them, but you’ve got to see my point. And when it escalates, you see people calling some one a liberal/conservative/libertarian to devalue their claims, or to justify/credit to them. It’s fucking stupid and it pisses me off. It shuts down argument and intelligent discussion. I’m sure it makes you feel all warm and fuzzy and like you’re part of a movement, but it’s not going to win anyone over. And if all you’re doing is making yourself feel good, rather than giving yourself any chance at making a difference, regardless of your cause, you may as well be shouting slogans and buzz words at a goddamn brick wall.